During this campaign cycle, we saw the backlash to broad spectrum of efforts to obtain full equality. While Obama was not perfect, under his administration, movements of the people flourished. Immigrant communities organized, raised awareness, and applied pressure achieving at least a few minor gains, like the DREAM Act. Black Lives Matter flourished. While the president was not as forceful as I would have liked, he did defend the movement and under his leadership investigations occurred into police accountability/abuse and reports were issued that have the power to create some systemic change. He raised awareness of about the abuse of our system of incarceration and took steps available on the federal level.
The LGBTQ movement was also able to thrive under Obama. He appointed several members of our LGBTQ community into key leadership positions. Questions about fair housing, included questions about whether LGBTQ people were discriminated against. He also took a position that the ban on marriage discrimination was wrong. When the Supreme Court finally remedied the long standing practice of denying marriage to same-sex couples, the Obama administration went to work on finding all of the places where the federal government was involved and removing any barriers to equality.
It is hard to believe sometimes that Lawrence v. Texas was decided in 2003. How on earth was it only about 13 years ago that some states still outlawed homosexual conduct (i.e., sodomy)? When the barriers finally began to fall, full equality felt like it came at a rapid pace. This is why, despite all the growth we have had, in many ways the changing administration doesn’t change the longstanding advice for the LGBTQ community.
The people dedicated to these issues have issued FAQs and information. Lambda Legal has Post-Election Facts – Covering marriage (unlikely to see much change), trans youth, conversion therapy, hospital visitation, HIV and concerns about the repeal of Obamacare and hate crimes. NCLR has several blogs, Shannon Minter, their super smart legal director has this to say about the unlikely outcome of repealing marriage. The NCLR is also one of the best resources out there to understand state-by-state differences. The Transgender Law Center issued this Statement on the election.
In addition to these thoughts, I will add, no president, congress, or court has ever simply given the LGBTQ people rights. It has been a hard fought battle, that was based in some incredible activism changing hearts and minds.
It also doesn’t hurt our cause that LGBTQ people are everywhere. Race, religion, ethnicity, and many other identities find people still segregated, largely due to historic discrimination issues, but also because sometimes it is easier to live in communities where you see yourself, you know you are less likely to be targeted for harassment and violence, you know when you go to the store they will have beauty products for your hair, or a grocery store that will meet your kosher needs. This segregation doesn’t occur in the same way for the LGBTQ people, while as grown-ups we may seek out gayborhoods, we are raised Muslim, Evangelical, atheist, Jewish and every other religion. We are Black, Asian, Latinx, Native American/First Nations/Indigenous, White and every other race and combination of race and/or ethnicity. We come from conservative families to progressive to anarchistic families. It is simply impossible to shield yourself from loving someone, a son, daughter, auntie, uncle, parent, who may come out as LGBTQ and the more accepting world expanded the safety area for people to come out. It is impossible to exist in any identity without also having LGBTQ people as a part of that identity.
However, this change is recent. We have not lived in a post-Obergefell (Supreme Court case affirming the dignity of same-sex marriages and holding discriminating against same-sex people in marriage liscenses violated our constitution) world long enough to have let our guard down. Attorneys advising same-sex clients were still saying, get your documents and don’t delay.
What kind of documents should you get?
Transgender people should make sure their identity documents match their gender identity (to the extent possible as they predominately exist in the male/female binary). One place to turn for information on this available at the Transgender Law Center Identity Document Resources– it’s California focused, but it does have information about federal changes. Looking at the California info may also help you figure out how to look for the same in your own state.
Protect your relationship to your children. If you have read any other blogs I have written or seem me present, you have heard me say marriage equality does not equal parentage equality. Get a court order affirming parents are parents. This can be done a couple of ways. Many people are most comfortable with adoptions. There is case law to support that court orders adjudicating parentage will be given full faith and credit, this is essentially an order of parentage, similar to what has been historically called paternity. In Washington State, our law regarding determining parentage is gender neutral (Uniform Parentage Act / UPA, which despite its name is not uniform and many states haven’t adopted it, or they tweak it. Washington tweaked our UPA to be clear it included same-sex couples).
If you haven’t done this, and your family is splitting up, you can make sure that your parenting plan has a finding that you are the legal parents. Parenting plans have extra security under a law called the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act (UCCJEA – and unlike the UPA it actually is uniform). There is also something called the Hague convention and signatory countries (countries who have agreed to follow the Hague rules) will also help with the enforcement of parenting plans). There are some concerns with something like this and possible rights and benefits that could flow to your child upon your death, so you should definitely explore other possibilities.
All LGBTQ couples should have estate planning documents – which a way of making you sound wealthy, but really means that you should have a power of attorney, medical directives, a will. These kind of documents are fairly easy to obtain. The reason for having them is mainly to have an additional weapon against discriminatory individuals at important times. These are also the kinds of documents people absolutely needed when there was no marriage. It was the only way that same-sex couples could link themselves in the eyes of the state.
Pay Attention – More Advice Will Come Out Once Trump is in Office with a Republican Congress
There is so much more we will learn in the coming months and years. The hateful rhetoric connected to this election has all of us justifiably nervous. The thing that helps keep me from panicking is remember that our government was set up to thwart major sweeping changes. It took a long time to get where we are and it will not be unwound easily.
Perhaps it means as states that are happy with having the marriage issue decided can try to clean up their statutes that banned marriage and explicitly say that same-sex marriage is allowed in their state (this would mean absent an amendment to our constitution marriages would still have state protection). While states are at it, they should make their laws regarding parentage and have two things clear (1) that families can affirm their parentage if they meet the terms of the UPA (which is basically that you consented to assisted reproduction while married or that you have lived with the child since birth for several years and held the child out as your own) and that the provision apply on a gender neutral basis, i.e., biology is not the only factor in determining parentage.
Also, be sure to reach out when you experience discrimination. The national organizations like Lambda Legal, NCLR, Transgender Law Center, and the Southern Poverty Law Center, need to know what’s happening in people’s lives to respond to it. Also, let your state organizations know. In Washington, groups like Legal Voice and the ACLU have been spearheading many efforts. Our Attorney General created a Civil Rights Division. The QLaw Foundation has a legal clinic that provides free legal advice on civil question (i.e., non-criminal). Gender Justice League has resources on health insurance issues (among many other things). Ingersoll Gender Center has support groups, resources, and information about providers. There are also many other groups that focus on intersectionality: Entre Hermanos, Trikone NW, NQAPIA, and many more.
I’ll keep trying to update about what’s happening in Washington as several interesting cases concerning LGBTQ people are before our state Supreme Court this week.
Parting thought: Please take care of yourself, legally, socially, and emotionally.